Fulfilled living in later life

Tuesday 26th November 2024

My Story: Joan

Joan, 94, lives at Homesdale in Wanstead, London. She told us how God protected her and her family through the Second World War, leading her to a life of adventure as a naval wife and opening the door for prison ministry in her later years

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“My mother and I were in Plymouth all through the Blitz and twice she saved our house when it was firebombed,” she recalls. “We were in the shelter at the bottom of the garden and saw all these flames coming out of the roof. So my mother picked up the big metal bucket of sand and took it up the stairs and up a ladder to the loft and put the fire out. She was a very brave lady.”

Joan’s father was in the Royal Navy Submarine Service and so Joan and her mother lived with constant worry. “Many submarines were being lost. We never knew if he would return home.”

When he did come back to base, it was usually to Scotland. “Dad couldn’t reveal his whereabouts and so he and Mum agreed on a code and he would send her a telegram. She would immediately pack up and go to the secret destination. These times together were precious as they never knew if they would be the last.

On VE Day, as the nation celebrated, Joan’s father was away in the Far East where war continued. He did eventually make it home for good, but only after a narrow escape. “The hydroplanes [used to control the submarine] got stuck and so his submarine had to go 1,000 miles on the surface back to base. They were a sitting target.”

Joan describes the church she went to, St Philip’s in Plymouth, as being the centre of everything and it was here she first learned to trust in God. “It was just something we all grew up with.”

She knew her husband Peter through a family connection – her aunty was married to his uncle. Peter too pursued a naval career, making Joan a naval wife like her mother before her. They had a daughter Nicola and then Peter was seconded to NATO in Malta to serve as Secretary to the Turkish Admiral.

They were then posted to Izmir in Turkey where Peter was Secretary to Captain Dickens, great-grandson of Charles Dickens. When they arrived, Joan was three months’ pregnant with their son, Stephen.

Joan had to get used to life as a young mother in a country where she didn’t speak the language. “My Turkish friends in Malta had kindly written a list of words to help me with the shopping and I went armed with this every time until I knew enough to get by.”

Further postings for Peter followed in the Far East and then South Africa while Joan and the children remained in the UK. Peter was then posted to Scotland where they lived as a family.

Peter left the Navy at 39 to take up bookkeeping while studying to become a chartered secretary and the family moved to Luton. After the children left home, Joan and Peter moved to High Wycombe, joining a church at Tylers Green. It was here that a seed was planted that would lead them into a new area of ministry.

“We attended a talk at the Methodist church by an ex-prisoner. I felt God was calling me to work with prisoners but I didn’t know how.”

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Peter left the Navy at 39 to take up bookkeeping while studying to become a chartered secretary and the family moved to Luton. After the children left home, Joan and Peter moved to High Wycombe, joining a church at Tylers Green. It was here that a seed was planted that would lead them into a new area of ministry.

“We attended a talk at the Methodist church by an ex-prisoner. I felt God was calling me to work with prisoners but I didn’t know how.”

Some time later, they moved to Devon to care for ageing parents. It was here Joan happened to meet a Methodist minister from Teignmouth who was part of prison chaplaincy. He connected her with the charity Prison Fellowship and she began visiting for the weekly services in the prison. “The Lord arranged it all.”

Peter joined her with prison visiting and helping to support prisoners when they were released. “We kept in touch with them as long as they needed us.”

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This led them on adventures. “On one occasion, there was a young man newly released, who had to get a bus from Exeter to Bournemouth to report to probation, only the bus didn’t turn up. We ended up driving him all the way so that he could make it in time, and he made it – just.”

As far as Joan knows, none of the ex-prisoners ever went back in. She has kept up with some of them over the years and as we speak the phone rings and it is one such gentleman calling to say ‘hello’.

Joan and Peter encouraged those they helped to find a church. “Sadly some churches weren’t very welcoming so we’d tell them not to give up but to try a different one.”

After Peter died, Joan moved to Homesdale in London in 2018 to be closer to family.

Having trusted God all kinds of circumstances over the years, she has developed a deep assurance. “I know He will look after me come what may. He has looked after me all these years.“

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